Relationships With Teammates
Nietzsche talks about things that don't kill us make us stronger.
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- Stay centred and focus on things you can control: YOU are in control of how you respond to others. Choosing to take a positive view of things that happen, within a team, can sometimes be hard but in terms of team harmony and success it's vital.
- Accept life is a journey: Teams have a life of their own and will develop as they mature. A new team will behave like an infant and sometimes struggle to find it's feet. A developing team will be subject to the occasional tantrums and feeling of awkwardness. Only mature teams will be able to identify their goals and reach their full potential. Because sports teams spend most of their time in transition/development it is nonsensical to expect them to always perform at the highest level. Teams need their individual members to exercise patience, show understanding and a demonstrate a desire to help the team.
- Keep calm: Volatility and unchecked emotional responsibility are a sign if immaturity and are generally destructive in a team environment. Passion has it's place petulance does not.
- Live in the moment: Each interaction with your teammates needs to be immediate in the sense that every time a team meets it has the opportunity to regenerate; things can literally start again. This means that as part of a team individuals can choose to leave behind any problems of the past and only carry forward positives. This allows everyone to focus entirely on what's needed (now) to build a successful future. Doing this consistently will mean that every time a team meets it starts from a slightly better place. Over time these small improvements will lead the team to the door of success.
- Don't blame, take responsibility: It's the human condition for ordinary people to look to others when things go wrong. Sporting greats are not ordinary they take responsibility.
- Seek out tranquility, through meditation: In this context tranquility can be taken as mental toughness. A huge amount of academic/scientific evidence suggests that understanding how our mind works is at the root of all real success, You need to make time to understand yourself.
- Become aware: Success is rarely achieved in isolation. Even the greatest performers need support. It's easy to remember prominent members of your team, it is much more important that you remember everyone that contributes to your success.
- Be ethical in all of your dealings: In every human exchange there are the words, written or spoken and there is the spirit. The spirit of an agreement is almost possible to define. There is a whole branch of philosophy that deals with the idea that if something can be described it's not worth describing. BUT most of the time people know what is expected and know what they agree to. If you say yes to something it is incumbent on you to keep your word. From a team perspective this is often as simple as being on time and putting in the required effort.
- Be truthful not hateful. Speak your truths consistently and without being combative or aggressive: Constructive criticism is the foundation upon which most success is achieved. Somewhere along the way someone will have taught us. mentored us and criticised us. Criticism is never a problem if it comes from a desire to help and is delivered in a sensitive way. Before sharing our wisdom with others it is important that we think of an approach that will minimise the chance of giving offence and making matters worse.
- Listen to the truths of others without being combative: Your wisdom may not be as comprehensive as you think. Always allow for alternative views.
- Don't automatically accept or reject anything. Investigate and test everything: Just knowing is rarely good enough. The knowledge that we rely on to regulate our lives must be true, honest and accurate.
- Avoid becoming cynical, recognise virtue, high ideals and heroism: I have found that as players age they form two distinct groups; some become jaded only see the negatives, some become leaders who inspire less experiences teammates. One group is invaluable the others need to be cut from the group as quickly as possible.
- Be yourself: don't flatter or fake love and/or affection: There is a difference between acting in a positive way to foster positive relationships and sycophancy. Respecting a person simply because they are a teammate is a good default position and supports the coach/organisation in a meaningful way.
- Make peace with yourself and everyone around you: Tolerance, acceptance and empathy make good teammates.
- Make peace with your own weaknesses and the weaknesses of everyone around you: We all need to be able to give and receive positive criticism. No matter how high we fly we depend on the uplift provided by others.
- BE HAPPY: I always find great teams display a childlike happiness in the way they play.
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